Far from being an empty slate, we bring a rich tapestry of impressions and experiences with us when we are born. Through our parents, we are part of an extensive ancestry line that might span the whole globe and can be traced back several centuries in human history.
I believe that human beings re-enter life on earth many, many times for soul growth and evolution. For those skeptical about reincarnation, it would delight me if you could find something here that sparks your interest or resonates with you enough to contemplate the content further.
I am equally ok should you skip the rest and choose to read another of our blogs instead.
Spark of Life
An oocyte gets fertilized by a sperm, and so life begins. The individual parts of two human beings cease their individual existence to develop a new, unique human being that has never existed precisely like that before and will never in the future.
A team of scientists at Northwestern University discovered in 2014 that sparks fly off when an oocyte and a sperm meet.
The scientific explanation of that spark is – well, quite scientific: “Eggs compartmentalize and distribute zinc to control the development of a healthy embryo. The mineral plays a vital role in controlling the ‘decision’ the egg makes to grow into an embryo – so the more zinc that’s released, the brighter the flash, and the more viable the egg.” (1)
After a rather flashy start, we spend 40 weeks in a dark womb. The mother’s womb provides nutrition for the fetus, and a protective barrier to the outer world, or so one would think.
However, in regression therapy, clients can recount in-utero memories. It supports the assumption that the fetus is exposed to the mother’s thoughts, beliefs, and feelings: Worries about how life will unfold with an unexpected pregnancy will be shared as much as the joys and the excitement of having a baby. The unborn has also some awareness of events happening “outside.”
Parents and grandparents may have already developed a life plan for the little one, even though the baby hasn’t yet arrived. High hopes such as taking over the family business, becoming a doctor like every other man in the family, or having a similar musical talent as grandma, are just some of the dreams, hopes and expectations that preceded our entry into life.
Understandably, parents have high hopes and wishes for their children. Unbeknown to them, the incoming soul may have very different plans for this earthly experience. Tensions and family drama arise when the long-standing family tradition of becoming a doctor is broken in favor of a rather free-spirited career as an artist.
The Lebanese-American writer and poet, Kahlil Gibran, shares his views on children and parents in his famous work, The Prophet:
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
Which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
But seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children
As living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
And He bends you with His might
That His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
So He loves also the bow that is stable.
“You may give them your love, but not your thoughts” – how easy it is to forget about that.
Parents want the best for their children. Generally, their role is one of nurturing as well as providing structure for the child to grow. More than that, it is essential to teach children to hear their own inner guiding force to rely on themselves confidently to make their choices.
How is that possible when parents decide for their kids what to eat, wear, and, more importantly, to become?
Memories of Other Lifetimes
Besides the expectations and personal dreams of parents and family, the new Earthling’s soul brings with it experiences from many other lifetimes. In those lifetimes, the soul may not have completed specific life lessons; it also has a theme that gets explored in much detail throughout many lifetimes, for example, abandonment, control, or love.
When a new life is getting planned, specific life lessons will be included – some of those are connected to incomplete life lessons from other lifetimes. To accomplish these lessons, the soul asks for other souls’ help, and the future parents are part of that circle.
Yes, we choose our parents.
Some women have an accurate vision or a dream of their future child, and souls are said to hang out around their prospective parents to become more familiar with them.
Trauma experienced in a previous life may surface in the first few years of childhood or later. Today, one can read up on many of these stories, such as Jenny Cockell, who recalls past lives since young and researched those in much detail, or James Leininger. He remembered being a World War II fighter pilot in his previous life.
Ian Stevenson, psychiatrist and former head of the psychiatry department at the University of Virginia, had spent most of his life researching phenomena unexplainable by currently accepted science such as claimed memories of previous lives. His conclusion: “The evidence was sufficient to permit a reasonable person to believe in reincarnation.”
Not only are we bringing with us memories of our past lifetimes, hidden behind the veil of amnesia until it is time to remember; we are also connected to and influenced by the energy of our ancestors, their unfinished business and wounds.
Studies have shown that this epigenetic inheritance can leave a chemical marker on a person’s genes, altering its gene expression. This theory is still controversial. C. G. Jung’s view that we are born with a subconscious collection of ancestral knowledge which can get triggered by external circumstances is a good alternative.
Some Native American traditions believe that our thoughts and actions can impact seven generations of the past and seven into the future. Despite being born as an individual, we are entangled in a web of ancestral bonds. We can choose to bring completion to ancestral patterns such as alcoholism in the family, always being the underdog, illness, or resolving a long-held family secret that weaves like a red thread through past generations.
“In the very traits of his temperament, which have a considerable effect on his life of the soul, a person bears within him qualities and impulses that have an obvious connection with those of his physical ancestors.” – Rudolf Steiner
It may require courage, patience, and determination to start this process of transformation. It is a worthwhile goal to heal ourselves and our parents, our children, and children’s children.
Our stellar map through life
A biological miracle is unfolding in those first 40 weeks. Every part within the body is orchestrated into existence at the right time and the right place.
Babies have their own timing to arrive. I do believe that we choose our time of birth. It determines the exact placement of several important aspects in the natal chart, such as the Ascendant, which helps us answer the question, “Who am I in this world?”. It is the zodiac sign that rose on the horizon at the exact moment of birth.
And given that we carefully choose whom we want to share this life’s journey with, it is hard to believe that we would leave the day and time for our entry into this world to chance. At the time of birth, the planetary constellation is a star map for our life’s journey, where the major planets are messengers and carefully selected influencers in life.
And then it’s time:
We arranged for a celestial orchestra, chose our fiercest supporters, as well as antagonists for this life, and we selected our unique gifts to share with the world. Perhaps we had some hesitations about starting another growth cycle on earth. The soul’s desire to grow and learn about itself will win eventually.
Birth is also the first hurdle to overcome. The quality of the birth process can imprint some fundamental beliefs in our cellular memory. With all the other influences at play, how can we look at a baby and feel anything less than wonder for this divine being setting out to have a human experience?